(Taken from the teaching series ‘Blurred Lines’ looking at what is Godly sexuality in a Confusing World)

 Our present culture o en confuses our sexuality and our identity, that sex is seen by many as only a physical act, a transaction or a passing interaction that has limited meaning rather than gift from God himself.

Sexuality today a ects all of us. We are both part of the problem and potentially part of the answer – the world is changing fast and sometimes we can be unsure how to behave, what language or labels to use…

Many of our responses to relationships and sexuality are often emotional reactions.

Since the 1960s and the sexual revolution, everything has changed. What used to be unacceptable to the average person in the street is now mainstream and celebrated in politics, education and media.

The Church has often been guilty of creating religious rules to clarify who is IN and who is OUT. But there is not a THEM and US. There is just HUMANITY – Gods Children.

The story in a Materialistic world says that sex is there for consumption, it is just a physical act, an appetite like food, but a Better Story (1 Cor. 6:18-19) is that your body is a carrier of the Holy Spirit and that we should honour God with our bodies.

The story in a Religious world says that sex is dirty, something to be feared and should not never be talked about, but a Better Story (Matthew 12:6-8) is that kindness is more important than religion.

The story in a Noisy world says that sex is everywhere and it sells! You can’t escape it, so you might as well enjoy it, but a Better Story (John 4:13) is that, what the world provides does not satisfy, only God will supply our deepest needs.

The story in a Confusing world says that you can be whatever gender you want and identify yourself however you want, but a Better Story (Genesis 1:27-28) reminds us that you were originally created male and female in the image of God.

 The story in an Ego-centric world says that you are the most important person, the hero of your own story. Whatever you want to do is best, if it feels good to you, do it! But a Better Story (Luke 9) says that Jesus gave up everything for us and asks that if you want to follow him, you should give up your own way of doing things and deny self.

In the confusing world of sexuality and our identity, there is a Better Story:

That everyone is made in Gods Image (Genesis 1), and given the gift of life and the gift of sexual intimacy, that we are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139) and we are his masterpiece (Eph. 2:10), but sadly all have made mistakes and fallen below Gods standard (Rom 3: 23).

 Here comes Jesus, although being in very nature God, made himself nothing (Phil 2:6-7) to rescue us, for his father God so loved the world (John 3:16) that he agreed to give his only son as the payment for the wrongs we have done, coming not to condemn the world but to save the world (John 3:17).

We are his children (1 John 3) and he is more interested in having a relationship with you than concerned about the category that the world may have labelled you with.

 When we become a follower of God we become a new creation (2 Cor. 5:17) the old has gone. You are restored to how God intended you to be and he asks us to Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind and Love your neighbour as yourself.’ (Matt 22:37-39).

As God has loved us, so we are called to love one another (John 13:34).

Now, that’s a better story…

Further reading:

  • Sex, Jesus and the Conversations the Church forgot – Mo Isom
  • No Perfect People Allowed – John Burke
  • A Better Story (God, Sex & Human Floursihing) – Glynn Harrison